Monthly Archives: August 2011

The Tweet Up – Part Three

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An hour and a half has passed. Several more people have arrived in the café, a large lady in creased linen squints at the lunch menu scrawled across a blackboard at the side of the bar, her companion, an elderly man with a bulbous belly and eyes to match grunts, impatient at her dithering. A few office workers also gather by the blackboard, they mutter about spreadsheets and Phoebe from accounts.

Abby finishes her last drop of lager and realises she must visit the toilet before making her escape. The tweet up group is huddled over Romana’s phone, apparently trying to contact another tweeter. As she pushes past them her rucksack nudges JoeHammer’s shoulder, he glances at her for less than a second and she experiences a pang of disappointment he doesn’t offer more interest or even a smile.

The Rogues Café toilets like the rest of the café are decorated with sketches of great rogues through the ages including highwaymen, thieves, smugglers and pirates. Abby pauses by a picture of Charlie Peace, ‘a notorious Victorian thief who carried the tools of his trade around in a violin case’ or so the inscription says at the foot of the picture. She thinks he looks like an ordinary man, aside from his rather oddly shaped skull, then remembers Sheldon from her sociology course who thought mesomorphs were most likely to commit crimes owing to their athletic body shape. She is studying the picture closely to see if Charlie might fit the mesomorph description when the door swings open and Millicent arrives, breathless and agitated.

“Oh sorry my dear; didn’t mean to startle you!” Millicent glances in the oversize oval mirror above the washbasin then pushes her way into a cubicle.

Abby hurries into the only other cubicle.  Just as she sits down, she hears the door swing open again and a throaty voice calls out ‘Millicent?’

“Yes darling Romana, just having a pee!”

Romana’s voice is urgent and low. Abby hardly dare breathe in case she misses a word. “It’s that man, the one in the suit. I’ve seen him before, I think he might be following me.”

Millicent drops the toilet roll; it rolls under the partition in Abby’s direction. Abby rolls it back without so much as a murmur.

“I just know him from somewhere and I don’t think it’s in a good way.” Her words slur a little and Abby is reminded of how much wine Romana must have imbibed by now. She immediately realises whom Romana is referring to, the man who smiled at her. Her heart skips a beat.

Millicent flushes the toilet and emerges from the cubicle. “And could it be your imagination Romana? Could it?”

Abby hears Romana sigh impatiently. “No!” The taps are turned on, Abby strains to hear the next sentence as water spews forth, the pipes gurgling loudly with effort. “You know what they’re like, can’t leave me alone, I’ve had to change my number three times.”

The hand drier blasts hot air noisily drowning out words Abby is eager to hear. She flushes and hopes this won’t deter them carrying on the conversation. However, when she emerges from the cubicle, they are gone.

Well, this is turning out to be an interesting day Abby tells herself as she squirts white liquid soap into her palms. Perhaps the man is a private investigator or a stalker, but Romana said ‘they, you know what they’re like.’ Abby, previously eager to leave the café, embarrassed by being alone, now wants to find out more. Perhaps she could pick up one of the dusty tomes on the windowsill and pretend interest, she still has enough coins for her bus fare if she decides to buy another lager.

No, she really ought to get back to the flat. Idly whiling away time in a café when she should be studying King Lear is not something her grim faced father would approve of. He’d given her hard earned money to pursue her degree, an opportunity he’d never had himself, unfortunately he never let an occasion slip by to remind her of this. He could have spent the money on golfing holidays, a conservatory or a round the world trip but no, he would invest in her future, a selfless and noble act. Without a mother to defend the fripperies of youth, Abby finds herself wearily listening to his lectures whenever she calls home or during the tri-monthly expected visit. Of course, he is right, what value did a curiosity in the lives of strangers have for any future career, but then, the same perhaps could be said of King Lear? She dries her hands, bounces back down the stairs and straight out of the Rogues Café without another glance toward the tweet up group in case she is tempted to find a way to stay.

The bus stop is approximately 700 yards away from the café. As Abby weaves her way down the street through people flowing steadily in an opposing stream to her, she ponders the man, the way he smiled at her, directly and without embarrassment, she wonders who Romana might be that she attracts such interest and what connection she has with the older woman. They obviously know each other from before the meet up today. How frustrating not to know what will happen next, if anything. Abby heard Twitter mentioned several times during the group’s conversation. Her best female friend has tried it but claimed boredom with the ‘inane tweets of egotistical flotsam.’ That’s exactly how she described it, so Abby had dismissed it too, she is very aware of Jane Asham-Brown’s own ego which is no doubt what led her to Twitter herself, and also very conscious of the fact Jane has little patience with anything that isn’t deeply meaningful, poetic or literary. That’s why Abby likes her so much; Jane behaves as though she landed in 2011 from another era entirely, 1920’s perhaps. It is impossible to discuss many modern day matters with her but fun to embroil in literary argument over stale buns in the Uni canteen.

Abby reaches the bus stop wondering if it is worth mentioning the intrigue at the Rogues Café. Jane will no doubt admonish her for being so forward as to sit alone in a public establishment. Ridiculous!

There are three people at the bus stop; a petite lady carrying a basket full of fruit and exotic looking vegetables, her hair in a top knot and her feet in spindly heels, a teenage youth, his face half covered by a hacked through fringe and a man squeezed into a wheelchair who is completely absorbed in a Frederick Forsyth novel.

Abby perches on one of the bus shelter seats which are always too small to give any kind of comfort and contemplates joining Twitter to see if she can find Romana, Millicent, JoeHammer or the other girl who she overheard as LibertySwan. Duff, the comic book hero with ringlets could help, as technology isn’t her thing. Yes that is what she will do.

Abby looks up as she hears the bus approach, coughing out black smoke at its rear end and grimy with city filth. The man in the wheelchair is helped on by the irritable driver who sighs theatrically as he heaves him out of the chair and into the nearest seat, which has been rapidly vacated by a pregnant woman. The chair is stiff to fold and the bus driver slaps ineffectively at the handles in an effort to make it obey his will. Unexpectedly the teenage fringe steps forward, twists the handle, deftly flicks the foot rests, and hey presto the wheelchair obediently flattens. ‘Same as me Gran’s’ he mutters giving the driver a pitying smile.

It is hard not to laugh at the bus driver’s incredulity. Abby covers her mouth with her hand. The bus driver returns to his seat even more irritable, and in sulky silence scoops up change while flicking the machine to spew out tickets. Before the spindly-heeled woman can get to her seat the bus starts to move leaving her to sway awkwardly, buffeted by her basket.

Abby turns to the window on impulse and sees the suited man from the café just reach the bus stop, he is waving frantically at her, but it is too late. She sits back in her seat, agitated and confused, what did he want with her? Searching her memory she can’t think she has ever seen or met him before, he is definitely not a lecturer or student, certainly not a friend of Duff or Kieron, the boring bearded wonder. If he is following Romana, how can there be any connection with her as well? Fear makes her breathe loudly and an elderly lady in the seat behind her puts a hand on her shoulder “you all right dear?”

“Oh yes, er thank you.” Abby twists her shoulders round to smile reassurance at the lady but it is an uncertain smile.

“I thought you might be asthmatic or something, my youngest son is.” Her brow is furrowed into arrow shape lines of worry. Abby wonders whether to explain but knows it might take too much effort so tries to calm her breathing instead. Usually she only experiences such anxiety attacks before exams. She begins to think the man might work out which bus stop is next and try to get there, but why does she feel scared or nervous? His face wasn’t unfriendly as he waved his arm at her. Probably it is because Romana sounded so anxious in the toilets, the word stalker hasn’t been used but it comes to her now conjuring up the image of someone dangerous and unhinged, in pursuit, in need of something.

Five stops later, Abby clambers off the bus with unfelt muttered thanks to the driver who has driven like an idiot most of the way, adding to Abby’s unsettled feelings. She hurries along the street continually looking behind her, just in case the man appears again, even though she knows this is not likely, unless he had a car and followed the bus. Shallow breaths come again at this thought and she peers round at cars speeding along the suburban roadway beside her.

No, she must calm herself down. This is daft.

Abby rushes through terrace lined streets eager to reach her temporary home, a spacious shared flat on the sixth floor of a ten storey tower block, hopeful that Duff will be there, writing his essay, eating crisps and muttering about deadlines.

As she approaches the tower block she pulls her rucksack off her shoulders, unzips a pocket and fingers her keys, then looks over at the entranceway hearing squeals and cries, a young woman struggling with a pushchair and shouting at her three children of various heights, waves a weary hand in greeting. Poor Charlene, thinks Abby as she does every time she sees her, she knows her well by sight and occasionally they exchange moans about their respective landlords.

Running up stairs to double doors, decorated with pointless squirts of graffiti paint she debates for a second whether to take the stairway or the lift. Either way the smell of urine or bleach will not be avoided. A figure hovers by the lift and she hopes it isn’t the old man who always asks her for a kiss.

It isn’t. It is the suited man.

The Tweet Up – Part Four

Copyright 2011 © Petra Kidd

The Tweet Up – Part Two

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Abby sits intrigued watching four strangers get drunk together.  The atmosphere has changed perceivably in the last hour.  She leans forward, face in hands wishing now she could join them.  Earlier awkwardness permeated the air; this has changed to alcohol- fuelled joviality.  The last to join the group, a young man wearing a worn leather jacket, washed out jeans and a wonky smile seemed barely able to greet the others at first, he appeared so shy, Abby noticed his hands were shaking and felt sorry for him.  But now, two bottles of lager later his palm keeps finding its way onto the knee of the woman in the slinky white top.   Abby sighs, his initial introversion gave her hope he might be more discerning than to hit on a girl so quickly.  She tries to convince herself it is part of a friendly tactile nature, not necessarily definite flirtation. 

 Millicent can’t seem to keep her fingertips from fiddling with Linette’s gelled spikes, her fingers apparently have a life of their own, prodding and stroking, flicking and teasing, as Millicent talks non-stop.   Linette seems amused and pleased by the attention, she moves her head from side to side as if encouraging it.  They are talking about other tweeters they know, endless names are dropped TitanAnnie, HellyLump, JimJamJon, KirstyCake, WordyGordy, the stilted words of greeting have been replaced by animated conversation, a waterfall of gushing words.  “Oh yes, I know him!”  MilestoneMilly sniggers, “we were tweeting until past 2am the other night, he is passionate about politics and we argue on every point but it really is such fun, bit smutty at times too!”

 Linette roars with laughter, any previous nerves or concerns about this unlikely tweeter seem to have vanished as quickly as the wine in her glass  “oh yes, I met him at Green conference, he never shuts up, a bit extreme I reckon, I thought he might twist my arm behind my back until I agreed with every word he said!”  Her slight northern accent rolls along at odds with Millicent’s nasal cut-glass enunciations, opposite ends of an imaginary scale but somehow joining in conspiratorial harmony.  “We’ll have to get him out some time, get a few bevies into him and find out how he really ticks!”  Linette snorts at the thought, shoulders shaking with giggles at the idea.  “Imagine how smutty he might get then!”

 Abby’s companions are ready to go, the Beard stands up, indicates the time by nodding at a clock over by the bar and gathers up the comic books they have been engrossed in for the last couple of hours.  The lad with ringlets scrapes his chair back noisily and looks pleadingly at Abby.  Abby doesn’t want to leave, she wants to hear more but she is not sure she can sit there alone, she doesn’t have the kind of aloof confidence a young woman needs to remain on her own at a table in a café bar.  Perhaps if she had a newspaper as a prop she could, she looks over at a rack by the door and considers this as an option.  The Beard doesn’t have enough patience to wait for her; he is already over by the door.

“I want to stay here a bit longer” Abby tells Ringlets but can hardly say why, someone might hear.  It is nosy to carry on eavesdropping on the tweet up group but at the same time irresistible enough to lean back in her chair in a stubborn pose, arms folded, brow creased, eyes determinedly fixed on his.  She wants to know what will happen next.  If she has to leave now, she will never find out. 

 Ringlets seems unsure what to do, he doesn’t want to stay, he has an essay to write and the Beard has challenged him to a game of pool later, so his time, in his head is neatly arranged.  Abby’s spanner has metaphorically been thrown in his works.  He likes Abby and doesn’t want to upset her.  So his next words are uttered with a slight whine “oh Abby, we can’t stay here all afternoon.” 

 Romana looks up, her radar can detect conflict at one hundred paces; she can see the girl doesn’t want to leave, JoeHammer continues to talk but now she isn’t listening.  She noticed the girl earlier, or rather she noticed her boredom, she can see she is quite young, her hairstyle doesn’t add maturity, corn colour plaits arranged in pigtails, wide eyes with just a touch of badly applied mascara, clothes a little too large, they could be hand me downs.  A rucksack with frayed straps, walker style sandals and cheap drinks, this girl and the others had to be students, little money and making the drinks last as long as they could.  She couldn’t help but notice curious glances directed her way from the moment she entered the café.  It had been somewhat irritating to begin with, but when the others had arrived, Romana felt like she had become part of a show, entertainment for this inexperienced youth obviously fascinated by Romana’s own sophistication and intrigued by her companions.  They could be in a television show, a fun little sitcom.  Romana couldn’t help but be amused by the girl’s sulky frown every time Joe touched her knee, 

 Now Romana watches, fascinated to see if the girl will be brave enough to stay on her own.

 Abby asks Ringlets to pass her a paper.  “You’re staying here?  On your own?”  His voice is a mix of concern, incredulity and annoyance.  “It’s erm, not a great idea..”

 “Yeah, why not?  I don’t have an essay to write, or pool to play, why can’t I?  She sounds convincing enough and Ringlets leans his head to one side as if to contemplate the situation. “Well if you’re sure?”  He doesn’t want to stay, he doesn’t want to leave her there, but he can’t think of a strong enough argument to get her to go with him.  Romana suspects the girl usually follows him around like a faithful puppy; her sudden resistance is obviously a bit of a surprise to him.

 Abby nods “lend me a tenner.”  A screwed up note lands on the table before her, a fiver, Ringlets is off.  A few moments later, Romana watches him pause outside the café window to check if his friend, girlfriend?  Is serious in her intent to stay.  She is.

 JoeHammer has grown tired of Romana’s inattention, he decides it is rude and he returns to the bar to get more drinks.  Abby joins him, uncertain and small like a lost child at grown ups’ party.  Romana turns to Millicent and whispers to her, it is a stage whisper so Linette can hear too.  Abby just catches ‘the girl’ as she turns her head waiting for Joe to make his order.  She suddenly feels silly and very alone, and wishes she had left with the others, but it is too late now, everyone there seems to be aware of the commitment she has made to stay.

Deciding the cheapest drink is probably a bottle of weak lager; Abby refuses a glass and returns to her table.  She sits for a moment contemplating the label and then remembers the newspaper, up she gets again, knocks the table with her hip and the bottle smacks noisily down onto the hardwood surface.  Her hand is out to pull it up again before much can be spilt, just a couple of fizzy globules fly out before it is once again vertical.  Thinking it would be best not to look around to see if anyone in the group has noticed her clumsiness, she moves towards the rack, as she does, a man in a dark suit carrying a briefcase strides in and before she can reach out, leans across in front of her, grabs a newspaper from under her nose and shoves under his elbow.  It is the only newspaper left.

 Romana watches all this with amusement.  She is enjoying the gaucheness of the girl, and can’t resist watching to see how she takes this.  Abby turns on her heel, eyes downcast as if she believes by not looking up, no one will have noticed.   Her face burns red as she sits once more, alone with her bottle of lager.

 Millicent leans over to Romana, “funny girl, I hated being that age, couldn’t say boo to a goose, can’t think why she wanted to stay there on her own when her friends left.”

 “I think they were boring her with their comics.  Such boys, ridiculous haircuts and awful clothes!  I would invite her over but I think it might embarrass her all the more.”  Besides, Romana really can’t face it, whatever would they talk about if the girl wasn’t on Twitter?

 Abby sits, uncomfortable in the knowledge they are talking about her.  She glances over at the man in the suit; who is leaning over the paper, studying it carefully through tinted square glasses.  How old might he be? Thirtyish, maybe older, grey specks glisten in his sharply razored hair. He headed for a table by the front window after securing the paper, as if he always sat there, no hesitation or uncertain survey of the room to assess the best seat.  Without looking over, she convinces herself the girl in the white top will be checking him out, appraising his smartness, considering his wealth.  It’s just the impression she has of her, the kind of woman who could have any man she desired, the kind of woman who would only be interested in a man of substantial means.

 The group are discussing how Twitter has benefited them on a personal basis.  Each on their third or fourth drink, they are getting louder, less discreet with information about their private lives.  JoeHammer mentions a girl he met through tweeting, invited her out on a date only to have three other men turn up too.  They all howl with laughter, Millicent’s laugh is throaty, the deepest, Romana puts her hand over her mouth to stifle her shrieks, Linette’s is shrill and JoeHammer’s is a loud staccato, stopping and starting as if fighting for breath.   

 The curiosity Abby felt earlier has turned to a strong desire to leave; she swallows lager in gulps, cold glass hitting her teeth with a clonk.  No longer does she want to find out more about the people in this drunken group, escape is on her mind.  It isn’t easy to drink fast, and she is sure the girl in the white top, Roma or something, she half caught her name must be watching her every move through the corner of her eye, waiting for her to trip again or perform some foolish faux pas.   Not wanting to waste the drink, she considers taking it with her, but this wouldn’t look right and she could hardly walk down the street swigging from a bottle.  What would people think?

 The man by the window looks up, as if disturbed by her thoughts, he smiles, a quite dazzling smile at her.  Abby looks behind her, thinking the girl in the white top must somehow have moved places, surely it would be her this man would be smiling at but no, his full attention is on Abby.

The Tweet Up – Part Three

Copyright 2011 © Petra Kidd

Eccentricity

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Vivienne Westwood to my mind is a wonderful name and at the weekend I read a particularly enjoyable article about this quite remarkable woman. It made me laugh out loud, and feel kind of envious of her overriding eccentricity. What a brilliant state to be in, I thought, totally encompassed in your own world, doing your own thing with little or no apparent self consciousness, however kooky she might appear to the outside world she has made an amazing success of it all.

Putting aside the accumulated wealth, how society measures an individual’s success, true success must surely come from living the life you want to live? Yes everyone needs money to survive but what about putting a bit of soul and originality into your life?

I hear over and over again, ‘but what will people think?’ However, we all love to point out eccentrically dressed people, or those who behave to our mind oddly, it brightens our day and takes us out of the uniform regularity we all seem to think we have to live to.

No one is going to get arrested for wearing an oversize hat, using a massive ear horn, serving ice creams dressed as a parrot or dancing to a different beat. In fact, we love them all the more for it. So long as they aren’t harming anyone, what is the harm?

Edith Sitwell wrote that eccentricity is “often a kind of innocent pride”, also saying that geniuses and aristocrats are called eccentrics because “they are entirely unafraid of and uninfluenced by the opinions and vagaries of the crowd”. What a great state to be in, so long as you don’t get pilloried for it.

True eccentrics are to be treasured, they can’t be invented, you can emulate eccentricity but it has to be genuinely in your character to make it real. You can however, stop worrying about what the crowd might think, be true to yourself and carry on regardless.

Who knows, out of it, may come new opportunities to be happy and successful.

A very social addiction..

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I ask for Co-Codamol and the pharmacy assistant tells me that I must only take it for three days because this is an addictive drug.  They have no worries about the drug; it is social media I am addicted to. 

 Well am I?

 Other than my family and friends, I can list my loves in life, when do they count as addictions?

 I love social media, Haruki Murakami novels, red wine, sleep and beautiful Norfolk sunrises, oh and fabulous Norfolk beaches and chilling with my market trader mates, and running with my Twitter pals.  Ah no, wait, loves in life and actual addictions are strikingly different, without a doubt.

 So what can’t I actually live without?  What makes me function on a daily basis?

 In the past year I have forged friendships I didn’t know I needed and rediscovered something I had put on the backburner until the day all the everyday tasks left time for, i.e. writing.  These things all make me function, happily, and they have, in part come from social media.

 Writing and social media are intrinsically linked.  To participate in social media I have to write, by interacting with others I have rediscovered my writing skills.  My love of writing has, in a way, sneaked in by the back door and re-awakened the desire and now I can’t get through a day without giving something up to the world in the written word, whether it is 140 characters or more. 

 I reached a point recently where I knew I needed some kind of change in my life.  Inter-planetary activity could have been responsible but who knows?  The past five years have been spent worrying myself sick about others and suddenly in 2011 I woke up and realised, if I don’t get on with what I want to do, I will be old, blind and addicted to red wine and won’t have achieved what I used to dream of. 

This morning I watched BBC Breakfast as I er, ate my breakfast.  I got annoyed because they had a discussion on technology and family life.  As usual it presented itself as a ‘how social media and smart phone technology are damaging family life and human interaction,’ piece and instead of pointing out the positives, went all out on the negatives.

 No, no and no again, you are missing the point.  Social media of course has negatives and yes families should sit round a dinner table and interact in many different ways, people should be able to communicate face to face without viewing their mobile every few seconds and be able to chat without the need for checking text messages or Facebook or Twitter.

 BUT, take a look at the social media success stories that must far outweigh the negatives, charities have raised millions if not billions of pounds, dollars, euros through social media, business acquaintances have been forged, it is a marketing dream, music has been created, isolated self-employed people have found like-minded souls, events have unfolded live and raw without censorship or journalistic interpretation. The truth has been reported, lives have been saved, dreams have been realised and so on it goes. 

No, it’s not all about what we had for breakfast!

 If I have an addiction let it be social media, it is really my only one and to my mind it is actually healthy!

Tweet on…

Dear Rodney, the reply

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Dear Rodney

 I hope you don’t mind me calling you Rodney. After reading your letter of the 25th I feel that I know you exceptionally well. I have to say that I am very moved by your story and feel compelled to help you in some way.

Unfortunately the lottery win of £70 was spent before I had even collected it. Having four hungry children and a wife who loves shopping I didn’t actually get to spend any of my winnings. I too, was short of a digit or two. If I had had only one more digit I would have won £101,000 and no doubt I could have afforded to send you your fare to Little Laveringham. However, I would not recommend coming here any time soon, the locals do not welcome even able-bodied new comers.

I have been giving your plight some serious thought and looking at possible ways for you to earn a living. You could join the Para Olympic team, though you would have to avoid sport that required you to close one eye to take aim such as darts, archery or shooting.  However, you could try the synchronised swimming team, if you lost your other leg too you would earn the nickname ‘Bob’.

Anyway, I must be going now, as I have to collect my £1 winnings from a scratch card I purchased at the weekend. And before you pen another letter, yes I have spent it already. Keep smiling, if that is if you haven’t developed bells palsy and I hope not to hear from you again unless you have some good news for me.

Yours sincerely

The Lottery Winner

Footnote: I emailed back that Rodney is far to busy tracking down the people who won 66m on the Euro Lottery to respond.

Rediscovering the handwritten word..

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 In a quiet period on my stall today I decided I wanted to write to while away the time. Not having a laptop with me I realised I would have to pick up a pen and rediscover what my actual handwriting looks like these days.

 It is a rare thing for me to pick up a pen other than to sign a card, scribble a note to my other half or write down daily takings.

As a child I clearly remember practising handwriting styles. Fitting the pen between my small fingers to assess the most comfortable position, choosing a slant I decided, made it look all the more interesting. I studied the writing styles of my family and noted how very different they all were, I suppose this wasn’t such a surprise as we are all very different characters. I checked out the handwriting of my best friend at school, fairly large and tidy, carefully rounded with subtle quirks, like the ‘y’ having a long swooping tail. Her handwriting reflected her personality well. One of the brightest girls at school, she had a generous personality, was eager to embrace knowledge and being well-travelled for her age eager to impart information too. If you looked at her handwriting you would immediately realise, this was someone worth getting to know.

So, even at a young age I understood how handwriting gives an image of the person it belongs to, the level of intellect, whether you are tidy, busy, unruly, quirky, mean or generous, if you are vain, modest, secretive and a whole host of other possible traits. Handwriting could give the game away, however you sought to present yourself. This left me with a real concern as to how my personality might be portrayed when I picked up a pen!

Somehow and without the control I hoped to achieve, my handwriting developed naturally, and undoubtedly reflected my character against any will I had wanted to impose upon it. If you force an unnatural handwriting style, it simply won’t last.

As a child, every birthday or Christmas time presents or money would arrive from Aunts and Uncles. A day or so after the event, my mother would present me with a Basildon Bond writing pad and pen to write thank you letters.

Happily we didn’t have too many relations who sent presents as writing those letters could take quite some time. I only had to write two or three at the most and that would take up a whole afternoon. Eager to progress my written language skills, my mother insisted that each letter varied in content, telling me at some point these relations might meet up and compare notes on their letters so it wouldn’t do for them to be identical.

Never did it occur to me that each set of relations lived nowhere near the other, and more to the point, they were never likely to meet up except perhaps at family wedding or funeral and the likelihood of them taking my thank you letters to such events to compare content had to be deemed not just unlikely but beyond the realms of possibility.

The blank sheet of Basildon Bond would have a lined sheet placed beneath it to ensure the writing remained straight on the page. No crossings out were permitted; a misspelled word at the end of the letter and the whole thing would have to be written again.

Children get off so lightly these days. I always feel a pang of sorrow mingled with a touch of envy when my nieces and nephews scrawl a single line of thanks to their Grandmother. I know how thoughtfully she chooses their presents, deliberating on what they will actually like rather than what she thinks they should have. To be fair, they do telephone her sometimes but a phone call can’t be saved or treasured in years to come as can a carefully penned letter.

I still write to one of my elderly Aunts but will admit I type the letters. The excuses I use to myself to appease the guilt of using keyboard instead of pen include lack of time (writing longhand definitely takes longer), and I assume she would struggle to read my lopsided slant of words so therefore; I am making it easier for her to read what I have to say. Of course I have never asked what she feels about this. Does she open the letters and sigh, wishing that I had made the effort to use my own fair hand? I do feel guilty but doubt I will ever ask her, I can’t face all the rewrites as I stumble over words and feel compelled to start again because of the crossings out. Childhood rules remain ingrained.

 By the time I reached college my handwriting style was of course firmly entrenched and something I didn’t even think about much any more. I did notice how my essays looked, the forward slant of words formed a uniform pattern on the A4 page. I sometimes wondered how comfortable the lecturer would find reading them as on occasion they looked positively mesmerising. Another form of modern envy, I would guess most students now use computers to write their essays, tripping their fingers across keyboards instead of suffering the writer’s cramp I used to get.

Of course all my writing is done on the computer now, I don’t have to worry about crossings out, or unsightly corrector fluid marks. However, sitting writing with just pen and paper is strangely therapeutic, nostalgic and good discipline of sorts. I have to think more carefully before I write; I can’t just hit the erase key or delete a whole passage in one swipe. Perhaps I should try it more often, before I forget to write things by hand altogether…